Why do people skydive, bungee jump or for that matter work in professions such as firefighters, police and ahhh yes, the military?? The thrill? Cheating death? I believe that when it is your time to die, you die, I don’t think I could be in Iraq if I didn’t, and yet … we wear Kevlar, helmets, ride around in armored vehicles, so do I really believe that we have no control over our fate?
We sat in a convoy for the second time this week, why you ask?? Well we are in the middle of badging hell!! This translates into us having to drive back and forth to Camp Victory more than I want, trying to get our identification straightened out. It’s true that as long as we are inside the walls of the base, we are relatively safe, (although that’s hard not to question when, like today, my body shook repeatedly from the force of 5 mortars exploding inside the walls) but as soon as we drive outside the confines of the base, I feel like a tin duck in a carnival shooting gallery. While we were sitting in the convoy waiting to get underway, I noticed the bullet holes in the vehicles around me, then I heard Marcel and a couple soldiers joking about how our vehicle hadn’t been broken in yet, ‘no bullet holes’. Ever since the Marine was killed by a snipers bullet to the head, it’s all I can think of as we drive, I’m constantly adjusting my helmet, pulling it down to cover my eyes then I think the back of my head is exposed so I pull it back, I shift it to the side facing the highway and then think what if it comes from the other direction and as a last resort sink into my seat trying to cover as much of my throat and chin as I can while pulling my helmet down over my eyes. Marcel and I casually discuss how a bullet between the eyes or driving over an IED (Improvised Explosive Device) would be a good way to die, quick, before you knew what hit you. I said, “ It’s weird thinking that we could be talking and it could be over, watch out there is something on the highway” we swerve to miss an object on the road. I watch the hum-Vs that follow all swerve to miss the same object. What’s even more bizarre is this conversation actually took place. I’ve never had anyone want to kill me before, well OK, maybe one or two people, but I don’t think they were really serious. On the way home Marcel and I noticed a fresh hole in the asphalt, the same road we had traveled only hours earlier. We finally pull into Abu Ghraib, off come the helmets and we both smile and jokingly laugh that we made it back in one piece, but it’s nerves, we are both very aware we might not have.

My boys will be on their way soon to work with Marcel, I wonder if I’m a terrible parent. They're all adults now and have made their own choice to come, but we didn’t have to hire them. I know they’ll be fine ... that’s not true, we never know if the ones we love will be fine we just have faith they will. The Wife and Mom in me says I should have said no, but the realist in me knows it wouldn't make a difference.